Saturday, February 5, 2011

Mommy Mayhem

Moms feel this innate need to be better than each other.  Sometimes I feel it is one of the easiest and biggest thing that mom’s let creep into their lives.  Doesn’t take long, I tell you.  I saw it before I was a mom and it annoyed the crap out of me and made me never want kids.  

Then I went and met my match and loved him more than anything on earth and wanted to make babies!  So we had our little Mover and I entered into the “mommy mayhem” as I like to call it.  It is one thing seeing this from the outside- on the inside it is so totally out of control!  And I am not above it!! You would think for all my awareness beforehand I wouldn’t allow it to set in!  But nope I did- and still do.
I am learning that it is really just a need to prove to ourselves that we are “good enough”.  

Examples:
“Oh I use cloth diapers- they are so much better for my baby”
“Oh you let him do that?”
“I only let my kids eat organic.”
“I got up at 5am and made my husband breakfast then when grocery shopping with all my kids before 9am- just saying”

Ok all of these are fine statements in themselves, but it is the heart that is very apparent in the way it is said.  It drives me insane- yet I know I do it and have done it!
Why do we constantly feel like we have to measure up as Moms?  I feel like God is continually reminding me that the cross is still enough- even for MOMS!  Sometimes I feel like my security in Christ really dissipated when I had my son, I have been trying to rebuild it since- trying hard not to let me desire for the approval of others, overrule my desire for my Heavenly Father’s approval.

Hey mommas out there- please don’t be offended- take courage- we have a God that is so much bigger than our successes or our failures.  Be encouraged!  You are kicking butt!  Don’t take the judgments of others and don’t give out your own.  We are a fragile crew sometimes- let’s support one another and be transparent- loving, helping (in love), and accepting help from one another.

" Encourage one another daily, as long as it is called Today, so that none of you  may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness." Hebrews 3:13

1 comment:

Chromosomally Enhanced said...

this also drives me insane! but what can you do when it is all around! comparing mothers, childs and even fathers for that matter because we all think we are right! but as I get older it seems to have lesson and I see that I know nothing about parenthood and I am sooo trying to wing it! I think there is comfort in seeing others do it...I said I would NEVER play in a inside play park...we do it and I will continue to! great post...hope all is good with you! SMILES